An honest wellness check-In

Lately, I’ve been thinking about how rarely we’re asked how we’re actually doing.

Not the polite version. Not the “busy but good.”

I mean the quiet, honest check-in. The one that happens when no one is watching and you finally pause long enough to notice yourself.

I’m hoping this space allows a little time for us to take that pause.

Not because something is wrong, but because life has a way of pulling us away from ourselves. One responsibility, season, or expectation at a time.

We may not even realize it’s happening until one day we think, When did I stop feeling like me?

I believe it’s safe to assume many of us have practiced wellness before. We know the habits. The routines. The “right” answers. And yet, knowing hasn’t always translated into feeling great. For me, when I feel extra motivated to get the most done in a day, sure, it feels great by the end of the day, but it leaves me exhausted, and then I stall out the following day. Pacing myself along with planning, etc, is the better option for me. I’m more of a walk, jog, walk person. You may be more of a runner. And that’s good for you. I’ll see you at the end :)

Can we agree, somewhere along the way, wellness became another thing to keep up with? Another place to succeed or fail. Another version of self-improvement that quietly asks us to be better, calmer, healthier, more disciplined - without ever asking how we’re holding up underneath it all.

This is not that kind of space.

As a matter of fact -nobody’s fixing anybody over here. We’re just simply noticing ourselves. It’s about telling the truth, gently. About acknowledging that our wellbeing looks different in different seasons. Let’s just say this season, my socks are huge and thick until further notice.

Maybe the most supportive thing we can do is stop trying to fix ourselves and start paying attention.

Right now, my own wellness looks quieter than it used to. Less performative. More honest. It looks like asking instead of making declarations. It looks like learning what I actually need instead of what I think I should be doing. It looks like allowing things to be unfinished, imperfect, and in progress.

It also looks like missing community.

There’s something deeply regulating about being in rooms with other people who aren’t trying to impress one another. About conversations that don’t need solutions. About circles where no one is the expert and everyone is allowed to arrive exactly as they are!

That’s what this space is moving toward - through writing, through conversation, and eventually through gathering in person if you choose. Not to teach or preach, but to just be together. To check in. To remember that wellness isn’t meant to be carried alone.

In the world of health and fitness, I have helped clients train for their marathons, I’ve helped them achieve their weight goals, and I’ve also sat on the floor in a detention center showing a teenager how to breathe instead of fight. My promise to you… I will meet you where you’re at. Whatever “wellness” looks like for you.

If you’re here, maybe you’re feeling it too. The sense that you’re not broken - but yes, sometimes tired. That you don’t need another plan - but you do need space. That you’re not behind - but you might be ready to slow down the mental chatter.

So consider this your invitation to pause.

Take a breath.

Notice how you’re really doing. Not what you plan to change - just what’s true right now.

There’s no next step required. No takeaway to apply. Just a reminder that wellness doesn’t begin with doing more.

Sometimes, it begins by checking in.

And sometimes, it begins by doing that together.

if this resonates with you, you’re not alone. This is the beginning of a conversation.

The more the merrier, so please share. It feels great to be back together!

xoxo - alysia